This Is What Happens When You Say Yes More Often

This post is all about what happens when you say yes more often.

Is there something that you have always wanted to do but kept saying no to it or pushing it off out of fear? This post is your sign to take the plunge and just do whatever it is you’re avoiding. I am going to tell you about what happens when you say yes more often. 

There are plenty of fears that I have.

I have fears of being rejected, being made fun of, being abandoned, being alone, and being forgotten. But the one thing that I fear the most is regretting the decisions that led me to do nothing.

I know that if my future 80-year-old self was looking at me right now, she would tell me to just do it all with no regrets (thank you for this mindset, Tonya Leigh.)

This fear of having regrets is why I am changing my lifestyle and saying yes more often. 

This post is all about what happens when you say yes more often. 

Dislcaimer

This post is for informational purposes only and should not be used to make any important or legal decisions. You, the reader, will read the contents of this post at your own risk. If anything I talk about is uncomfortable to you, then I suggest you close out of this post and read something else. Everything mentioned in this post is my personal opinion and should not be taken seriously. I cannot guarantee any successful results that you desire from this post; however, I hope to help you take one step closer to your best life. 

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Let’s Begin.

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This Is What Happens When You Say Yes More Often

1. You Will Learn More About Your Capabilities

When you say yes more often, you’re taking the first step to being outside of your comfort zone.

When you do something new, you are revealing to yourself what you are capable of.

Chances are, you were saying ‘no’ before because you feared you wouldn’t be able to do whatever it is you want to do.

Maybe you even thought this kind of activity was for people who are better at it and already know how to do it. But you forget that these people had to start somewhere too.

You’ll be surprised how much of a superstar you are. You’ll know how great you are at anything you put your mind to if you just decided to say yes. 

2. You Will Gain More Experiences

I live for more experiences and that is all thanks to my first trip abroad to Germany.

Don’t you fear that one day you’ll be 80 years old thinking about all the things in life that you didn’t do?

“What would have happened if I had just started that project that I wanted?”

“What would have happened if I had just reached out to that person I wanted to be friends with?”

“Would I be working my dream job right now if I had applied to it?”

You’re going to have all these what-ifs that you could have done but you now regret not doing them and it’s too late to go back.

You need to take every opportunity you get to have as many new experiences as you can. Don’t settle on the same thing over and over again.

If you love what you have already, then keep it, but you need to continuously be adding more to live your best life. 

3. You Will Grow As A Person

Saying yes more often will help you grow as a person because you’re forcing yourself to try new things.

Every time you say no, you just built up another wall that would prevent you from taking a step forward in your life.

Saying ‘no’ is limiting you to so many possibilities.

Tying the last two points into this one, if you say yes more often, you are shaping yourself to become the person you were meant to be.

When you are showing yourself your capabilities and adding to your list of experiences, they all come with your reactions to them.

You’ll do things just fine and start loving new activities. You’ll make mistakes and you’ll learn from them.

Your one ‘yes’ will make you feel as though you can do anything.

Even if you fail, you will realize that it wasn’t the end of the world and you won’t be scared to try again. 

4. You Will Become Less Fearful

Lastly, you will become less fearful.

I am saying this again: most of the time, you are saying ‘no’ because you are scared.

Think about how many other people have done what you want to do.

Are they fine? Of course, they are! Because you saw them and are inspired by them to do it yourself too.

But because you keep making excuses and are saying no, you’re being held back and you’re missing out on so much.

You’ve only got one life and living in fear is not the way to live it. 

Ending Note

It took me almost 20 years of my life to figure out the power of saying yes.

It was only recently that I began to see the benefits of all my yeses and I wanted to share them with you to show you how amazing your life could become too.

The events that I list below may sound minor to you, but they mean the world to me because I feel like I am living my best life. 

This Is What Happened When I Decided to Say Yes More Often

Warning: The list is long, but it’s so good. 

1. I Said Yes To Driving a Jet Ski Alone

Context

If you don’t know what a jet ski is, it’s like a motorcycle but for the water.

I’ve been on a jet ski plenty of times and they were all with drivers that knew how to drive a jet ski.

They made it look SO easy.

I am not the best swimmer so driving a jet ski in deep dark water was not exactly a bucket list idea for me.

Recently, I had the opportunity of driving a jet ski for the first time; however, my first time driving it also had 2 other people riding it with me.

If you’ve driven a jet ski before, you know that having more people on the jet ski adds weight to it (well duh) and makes it a little more difficult to maneuver.

When I started moving the jet ski, it was pretty easy. We were only going maybe 5-10 mph.

We were going really slow so I tried to speed up, but as soon as I hit 15 mph and made even the slightest turn, it felt like we were about to flip over.

It was really scary, not gonna lie. Luckily we got to our destination just fine. 

The Drive Alone

Later, I got another opportunity to drive the jet ski again but this time I would be by myself.

I was more hesitant to drive it this time just because I was going to be alone.

I decided to say yes to the opportunity and learned that it was a lot of fun and was SO much easier driving alone.

My dad and I were on our way to return the jet ski (I was following him while he drove the pontoon boat) and I was going at around 30 mph and it was so freeing.

I’m so glad I took the initiative to say that I wanted to return the jet ski. I never would have experienced that small sliver of independence if I hadn’t.

Now, I can confidently say that I’ve driven a jet ski alone.

How it’s different from driving 

It’s not the same as your first time driving because, on the water, there aren’t as many other boats as there are cars on the road.

Of course, I still had to look around and make sure I didn’t run into other boats or jet skis but that’s pretty easy to do.

Also, there aren’t exactly traffic rules. There is an expectation for which side you should be on and how far away you should be from other boats but you’ll be able to maintain those expectations naturally. You’ll already be cautious of other boats no matter how far away they are.

On a jet ski, you also feel the wind and water on your skin and it cools you down very well when it’s hot outside.

Unfortunately, when I was driving the jet ski alone, a storm was on its way so I was riding when it was cloudy.

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2. I Said Yes To Crabbing

Crabbing is a big one that I would say ‘no’ to all the time.

Crabbing involves slowly driving the boat in shallow waters and being on the lookout for round spots on the sand. Those round spots would either be clumps of grass or a crab.

When we saw what we were assuming was a crab, we would have to jump off of the slow-moving boat, chase after the crab, and net it.

We went out on the pontoon boat often and every time we went out, my dad wanted to go crabbing.

For some reason, my younger self thought that crabbing was a boring and almost ridiculous way to spend your time on a boat.

So only my dad and stepmom (and sometimes their friends if we brought any along) would go crabbing.

Then, a couple of months ago when we went again, I decided to try it.

I learned how to spot the crabs and how to properly net them.

When I first started out, I would try to scoop the crab upward with the net but the correct technique was to pull the net over the top of the crab and in a downward motion, scoop it towards you.

Crabbing is so fun. It is satisfying when you successfully net the crab because there are LOTS of opportunities to miss the crab.

The crabs definitely run away from you and when they sense that you are really close to them, they will dig themselves into the sand and can no longer be seen.

That was the day I learned how fast crabs were and how fun it was to chase after them.

I half regret not participating in this activity sooner. I could’ve been a pro by now, but at least I said yes this time. 

3. I Said Yes To Using A Menstrual Cup

Learning about menstrual cups was probably one of the best yes’ I have ever had.

I was on the fence about menstrual cups for about half a year I would say.

I had briefly been exposed to it years ago and decided that I would ease myself into the thought and try a tampon first.

Using a tampon for the first time was one of the worst experiences of my life in regards to my period. I thought it was stuck in me.

So that was the last time I thought about using any internal feminine products until my friends were talking about their experience with the menstrual cup.

They previously used tampons, switched to menstrual cups, and love the cup so much more.

I did all my research, listened to the benefits from both my friends and the internet, and they all sounded so good. 

Why I Was Hesitant To Use A Menstrual Cup

The technique of inserting a menstrual cup was very intimidating to me because I had never explored my body and its natural features before.

I was also afraid of it getting stuck in me because of my previous mental trauma of thinking the tampon was stuck in me.

Back To The Story

I bought my first menstrual cup (OrganiCup) and tried it when my first period came around. It was just as painful as trying a tampon if not worse.

You’re not supposed to feel it inside you if you insert it correctly. I definitely did that wrong because I felt uncomfortable all day.

I thought I was going to barf after 3 hours of it being inserted. When I took it out, it hurt.

I cleaned it out and proceeded to insert it again. This time, I tried to insert it with a different fold and I kid you not, I PUT IT IN SIDEWAYS. It was such a pain to take out.

I was in the bathroom at my boyfriend’s parent’s house for about 30 minutes and his mom asked me if I needed some chia seeds for my bowel movements (how embarrassing….)

That experience did not stop me from trying again though. I was so determined to make menstrual cups work for me and eventually it did.

I have since ditched the pads and only use a menstrual cup as my primary feminine product and I am never going back. 

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Extra Note

As You can tell, I failed with a tampon and a menstrual cup. But because I was persistent and tried again (well not the tampons), I was rewarded with one of the best conveniences of all time. (I am talking to everyone with periods now: Tell me I’m wrong after you tried a menstrual cup.)

4. I Said Yes To Big Roller Coasters

I give my boyfriend a big thank you for this one because he is the reason I am able to go on the big scary rides now.

For example, last month I went on the Velocicoaster at Universal’s Orlando Resort and it was AMAZING.

I used to never go on the big coasters because I had this fear of falling off the ride, barfing on the ride (because of my motion sickness), getting stuck on the ride if broke while I was on it, and the coaster falling off the track.

My boyfriend literally has no fear for any large roller coasters and I really wanted to experience everything with him.

So I switched my mindset and thought about how all the people before me and around me are able to go on this ride continuously for years and not barf or die.

I’m sure some people have barfed, but you don’t hear much about people dying.

I am so glad I decided to say yes to the big coasters because the little Dr. Seuss rides do not compare.

The big roller coasters make you feel like you’re on top of the world and literally force you to forget about everything else.

If you’re afraid of roller coasters, don’t be! You’ll be glad you got over another one of your fears. 

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5. I Said Yes To Demon Slayer: Kimetsu no Yaiba

If you call me a nerd, you’re right and I’m proud of it.

This ‘yes’ is also thanks to my boyfriend because he mentioned it early on in our relationship but I kept putting off watching it (I wasn’t interested and didn’t think I ever would be.)

The first time I watched some Demon Slayer was Mugen Train in theatres.

If you’re a Demon Slayer fan, you know that Mugen Train is literally smacked in the middle of the show.

I thought the movie was interesting, but it sucked that I didn’t have any context for the events that happened.

SO, a couple of weeks later I got really sick (like all over the body) and had a hard time getting around my house.

I didn’t have anything I could do except watch movies because my arms and legs were in too much pain to move.

I decided to watch Demon Slayer and let me tell you, I was HOOKED.

The next day, I had already finished it because I could not get enough of it. I was still sick but even if I wasn’t, I would’ve still finished it that quick. It’s so good!

I am currently impatiently waiting for season two to come out (As in, I am constantly looking up when the release date is.)

Another way you can tell I’m obsessed is because I listen to Kamado Tanjirou no Uta from episode 19 on repeat more often than I like to admit.

But the overall point is, if I never decided to watch this show and kept pushing it off, I wouldn’t have had this new passion for an anime series (I did not see that coming.)

I also would have had one less thing in common with my boyfriend (Oh no! *eye roll*.) 

6. I Said Yes To Axe Throwing

On my school campus, there was a little ax-throwing setup that was free for all students to try.

I had heard people talking about it and didn’t think much of it. (I honestly thought they were all joking when they said there was an ax-throwing event on campus.)

Me ax-throwing almost didn’t happen because I thought I would look ridiculous (ahem, the fear again.)

But the person I was with at the time was interested in doing it so I decided to give it a try. 

Based on the video, you can tell I did not regret saying yes to throwing an ax. I can now say that I have successfully thrown an ax.

There were definitely people in front of me that did not throw the ax as well as I did but they were definitely still enjoying themselves. 

7. I Said Yes To An Outdoor Movie (Without The Movie)

They were putting on an outdoor movie event at my school to welcome back the students for the new school year.

My friends and I planned on going weeks in advance, but they were all busy when the time finally came to go to this outdoor movie.

I almost didn’t go because I didn’t have anyone to go with.

I would think to myself “should I just go alone?” (But you all know how I prefer not to do anything alone. I need to get over that.)

I asked my boyfriend to drive the hour to me and I’m so happy he did.

We went to the outdoor movie about 30 minutes early, had our little picnic blanket set up, and watched the other students trickle in to set up their little picnic area.

In the end, we didn’t actually get to watch the movie. The people setting up the projector and screen were having lots of difficulties. By the time they got it to work, it started raining.

It wasn’t a little sprinkle, but full of downpours.

It was a really unfortunate event, but during the hour and a half of laying on that picnic blanket with my boyfriend, we had good quality time.

We also got free popcorn, candy, and drinks out of it.

If I had canceled the outdoor movie plan, I probably would’ve been home doing more homework (like I should’ve been) but I’m glad this happened because it’s another story to tell my kids one day (or document on here.) 

8. I Said Yes To A Public Trivia Game

While we were waiting for the outdoor movie to happen, they did a little movie trivia to win prizes.

You would go and stand at the front of the crowd and answer trivia questions about popular movies and actors. (It was just a bunch of students huddled at the front while the host yelled out the questions.)

If you know me, you would probably assume that I would not have participated in this kind of event. I have a fear of being in front of a large group of people (who knew.)

School presentations were never my thing. I cried after one presentation once because of how stressed I was.

But this time, for some reason, I decided “why not?”

Well, guess how it ended. I won a PRIZE. It was the lowest value prize but I still feel so proud that I got up there and did something and was awarded a prize. The prize was a school pennant.

And the question that qualified me for the prize was “Who is older? Channing Tatum or Jonah Hill.”

About 10% of the group went to Channing Tatum’s side (me included) and the other 90% went to Jonah Hill’s side.

Obviously, the answer was Channing Tatum because I just told you that this was the question that qualified me for a pennant.

I am so glad I participated because now I have a piece of my school that isn’t clothes and I got it for answering a few questions correctly. Who knew I wouldn’t regret it?!

9. I Said Yes To Dating Again

When I decided to say yes to dating again, it was sort of a big deal to me.

I had only recently gotten out of a relationship that I wasn’t happy in. I met my current boyfriend soon after.

Thinking about dating again was a difficult decision because I left my last relationship to focus on myself. I felt as if being in a relationship held me back from being my best self.

But my current boyfriend made it so hard to not give him a chance back then.

He treated me very well. He gave me a lot of support in almost all of my decisions.

So I decided to give this relationship a go and 1.5 years later we are still together. The fact that it has been 1.5 years already is insane because it does not feel that long at all.

I wonder where I would be now if I had never met him or if I had never gone on that first date with him.

I honestly feel like I would be 10x more productive because he takes up so much of my time (not that I don’t like it) but I also would never have gone on the many adventures we have gone on together.

We had trips to Atlanta, Orlando, and ice cream shops at 8 pm when I had just gotten off work.

I’m sure I annoy him constantly and he definitely annoys me every now and then, but he makes me happy. I’m glad I didn’t say no to the opportunity to get to know him and eventually love him. 

10. I Said Yes To Starting This Blog

Despite it only being two months, starting a blog is my favorite ‘yes’ by far. (Yes, even more than choosing to have a relationship with my boyfriend. I know, terrible.)

I talk about and think about my blog all the time. I’m obsessed at this point.

It’s getting very difficult to keep up with my classes because my mind is constantly filled with blogs, blogs, and more blogs.

Because I think about it so much, it means that I am very passionate about it which is really good.

I had already been writing to my time capsule for the last 8 years so starting a blog is similar, but with more opportunities.

So it’s just an upgrade from notebook paper to the internet. There were definitely a lot of stressful days where I thought I ruined everything and thought that I wasn’t going to make it.

But the small satisfaction I feel every time I upload a new blog post overrides all the stress that I go through.

Not to mention, I love writing these blog posts. I feel so accomplished and happy to share my thoughts and ideas.

If I hadn’t started this blog, I would probably only be focused on school and telling my boyfriend that I’m bored when I’m not doing school.

Saying yes to this blog made my life feel more fulfilled.

I have also noticed that I don’t have room to feel bad about myself anymore. The only thoughts I have now are how great my life is making everything in it better. That’s all I ever wanted.

If you’re on the fence about starting a blog, just do it. There isn’t anything bad that you would get from it if you do it because you love it. 

Ending Note 2.0

Did you forget I already had an ending note earlier?

These are only 10 yeses (lol “only”) that I have shared but there were plenty more and I am so excited about all the future opportunities that I will be saying yes to.

The point of me sharing all of these events is to show you how much I would have missed out on.

Would my life still be the same if I didn’t participate in any of these? Probably.

But the few things that I did gain were more experience and a more open mindset.

I love the saying “you won’t know until you try.”

I’m sure the more you read my blog, you’ll get the idea.

I hope you enjoyed reading all 4,000+ words of this post. Thank you so much for getting this far into the blog post.

Please let me know in the comments below what you have said yes to and what you want to say yes to but still haven’t for whatever reason you have (it better be a good one.) Have a good day!

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